Sex Party Rule #11: Ignore The Fact That You're Basically Having Sex In Public, Or Don't, If That's Your Thing I was being felt up and stripped down while groups of eager onlookers sipped cocktails and nibbled on chocolate-covered strawberries. When you’re having sex in public, you are so aware of it that you try as hard as you can to focus on the task at hand. So much so, that you end up forgetting that you aren’t alone. In the far left corner, a couple did it reverse cowgirl the woman next to us was standing against the wall as her date went down on her and there was a string of men sitting on the couch, each one straddled by his date. The clamor of lusty noises made the room sound like some sort of Bacchanalian blowout. A familiar post-sex feeling of “what did I just do” starts to creep in.